Eight Ways to Reconnect with Your Spouse #3

You've finally lined up a sitter for the kids, made dinner reservations, and dressed up for a night out. Trouble is, you can't think of a conversation topic that doesn't involve the kids, work, or bills. Lucky for you, this girlfriend has your back - conversation starter cards might be the answer to your dialogue distress. Just pick a few of the questions that you think you and your husband would enjoy discussing, and print them out, stick them in your purse, and when your discussion starts to drag, whip out your cards and voila – instant conversation.

A few conversational pointers - the key to a good conversation is asking open-ended questions. Don’t ask these questions expecting a certain answer in return. Most importantly, really listen to what your spouse has to say. You might learn something new that can improve your relationship. I know I did.

1. Name something you've never done but would like to try. Why does it appeal to you? What's kept you from trying it?
2. If someone offered us an all-expenses-paid second honeymoon anywhere in the world, where would you want to go and why?
3. What kind of volunteer work do you think you'd be especially well suited for?
4. Tell me about someone outside of your family who impacted your life as you were growing up.
5. Do you know your spouses favorite things? Favorite home cooked meal, dessert, way to relax, or favorite city to visit?
6. What would you do if you won $1 million?
7. If you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be? Why?
8. If you could store up only one hour’s worth of memory in your mind, which hour of our marriage would you want to remember?
9. When do you feel most loved?
10. In your opinion, what makes a great parent?
11. What are five essential values we want our children to embrace above all others?
12. What can we do as a couple to change the world in which we live?
13. What goals would you like us to accomplish in our marriage in the next year? … five years? … ten years?
14. If you didn’t have to worry about making a living, what would you most like to do for the rest of your life?
15. What would you most like people to remember you for after you die?
16. What are the five things you are most thankful for in your life right now? What are some of the things you do to show this thankfulness?
17. Whose marriage do you most consider to be a model marriage? What is it about their marriage that you most admire?
18. Which holiday do you enjoy the most? Why that one?
19. Where do you want to live when we retire?
20. What accomplishment are you most proud of in your life?
21. What person, living or not, do you want to be like? Why?
22. What would be your favorite vacation spot?
23. What is your favorite attribute?
24. What do people most admire about you?
25. If you could do anything ‘fun’, what would that be?

You now have twenty-five reasons not to have a quiet evening with your husband. :o)

Your Girlfriend, Michelle